tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3897336831437662766.post7399876629433460089..comments2024-01-10T23:59:23.819-04:00Comments on Today's the day!: What would you do - part 2Andyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00918826364837237450noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3897336831437662766.post-13770020165181032592008-09-10T20:29:00.000-03:002008-09-10T20:29:00.000-03:00What a coincidence that you posted about this yest...What a coincidence that you posted about this yesterday! Okay, well I think Hilary's supportive, but not judgmental or derogatory comment was wonderful. Any mom dealing with a temper tantrum could use a little, 'you're doing great' boost. Given this situation, I don't know what the mom needed, but support can't help. Then, my next thought, based on how I felt when someone interfered in my parenting is about what we don't know. The girl could be on the autism spectrum. She could be watching her mother be abused by a partner, or being abused physically herself. Situations can be so much more complicated than they seem in one glance. On the other hand, she could just be an out of control brat. If the mother had given any indication she might need it, I might have asked if there were any way I could help her? But, probably I would have done exactly as you did - I hope I would have given her at least a word of support. Finally, I'm sure Matt and I would have talked about the horrid child we saw on the bus for months because, you know, while I try not to publicly judge other parents, in the privacy of our kitchen, all bets are off!!!anymommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17870033179328734404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3897336831437662766.post-4137018480688512692008-09-10T13:34:00.000-03:002008-09-10T13:34:00.000-03:00found this post through anymommy's blog...if we we...found this post through anymommy's blog...<BR/><BR/>if we were there, i suspect my husband (a cop) would have sternly explained to that child that her lack of respect was outrageous, but her physical abuse could very well result in confinement and family court (and that her mother would have no say in the matter). of course, all that assumes he could control his desire to snatch her up and spank her bottom. (please, God, if we're ever in that situation, give him the control :D)<BR/><BR/>that poor mother. hilary was very kind to give an encouraging word. i hope the next person also directs her to some parenting help. (i don't mean that as judgmentally as it sounds.)meridethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10102497992419737100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3897336831437662766.post-65075272853304726022008-09-09T15:23:00.000-03:002008-09-09T15:23:00.000-03:00Okay, I totally assumed it was 2 adults in your sc...Okay, I totally assumed it was 2 adults in your scenario. I didn't really go beyond that - straight/gay couple, married etc, just two adults.<BR/><BR/>In this specific case, I don't know what I would've done. There are so many factors we don't know - the first thing that came to my mind is "what special needs might this child have?" There could be something more to it - much more - than just some bratty, angry kid.<BR/><BR/>That being said, in this specific situation, I might've tried to divert attention by saying something - something innocuous - to either the mother or daughter, in an attempt to diffuse things. Not sure what, maybe offering a piece of gum or a kleenex or something, or even just asked the time or what stop is next, that kind of thing... Not something that calls attention to the behavior, but gives even a moment's reprieve in which the dynamics might shift.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad Hilary said what she did. Yay Hilary!!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04027001537835285847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3897336831437662766.post-73053470488426453812008-09-09T15:14:00.000-03:002008-09-09T15:14:00.000-03:00This is a really difficult situation. In a similar...This is a really difficult situation. In a similar situation involving two adults (a couple) that my husband and I encountered, we called the police. I honestly can't say what I would have done. But I do love Hilary's response. Maybe I'll steal that one if I ever (hope not) am faced with a similar situation.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14165808217283915097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3897336831437662766.post-68035878618098001322008-09-09T13:06:00.000-03:002008-09-09T13:06:00.000-03:00I LOVE that Hilary gave her a bit of encouragement...I LOVE that Hilary gave her a bit of encouragement, that's awesome! I can't imagine being that woman and feeling like that, nor can I imagine my daughter treating me like that, OR allowing her to do so. Tough situation to be in, ya'll handled it well.<BR/>-DBeautiful Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425541240465474148noreply@blogger.com