tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3897336831437662766.post9060113721585819754..comments2024-01-10T23:59:23.819-04:00Comments on Today's the day!: What if...Andyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00918826364837237450noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3897336831437662766.post-40935823585712303122010-02-07T06:09:44.261-04:002010-02-07T06:09:44.261-04:00Hello Andy, Your post really grabbed me. Perhaps...Hello Andy, Your post really grabbed me. Perhaps by the end of this you will know why. As I write...I dont know precisely why...but sometimes you can feel when someone is talking at you (me) and there are no filters as to who we are. It then becomes a safe place to play with some new ideas. I am a person who does a lot of 'what ifs'. I wonder and frequently I get into trouble when the 'what ifs' begin to escalate into assumptions...usually they are assumptions that other people are responsible for my sadness. So NOW I have a new 'Pal' and I have myself and both of us remind me to focus on the 'it is what it is'. <br /><br />The adoption experience is part of my life. If it had not occured what would be different. I am totally in agreement with your last two statements. I do not think it changes the core of who you are-but it might change your finanacial circumstances or your exposure to more than one language etc etc.<br /><br />Would sexual preference have changed within our scenario...of the parties involved? I do not know. One question I might ask myself is...does it make a difference. If you are gay/lesbian or if you are not. I think that the second part of my life has pretty much firmed up the values that my parents initiated. Gay or straight, it really doesnt matter. It just is what you are. Sure maybe if your talents use your right brain more frequently than not and you are in a predominant left brain family. Maybe you will have confusion as to who and what to identify with. Or the reverse. But I think we are what we are....and we discover this....it is what we call our evolution. <br /><br />So thank you. I have been thinking nonstop for 20 months about what might have been and what is. Conversations such as your post have kept me growing and moving through the more difficult times-so that I can focus on the joy of my reunion.<br /><br />I am a birth mother. I had one child...a son born in 1966. He was adopted into a family who could give him love, a name, unbelievable education and most of all flexibility to pursue his dream...even though it didnt pay all the bills initially. Everything they gave him, I could not-except love and that was going his way all these 43 years. He leans toward the right (brain), is most creative, and his adoptive family did not have the same inclinations. He is an actor. He is a psychologist. And most of all he is the kindest most compassionate man I have ever met. He is gay...and when we first 're' met he shared this with me in his second email. I already knew. He is what he is. <br /><br />Thanks Andy from Canada who has a beautiful son, <br />Jacquelyn from Kaneohe HawaiiJacquelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04362294035392899312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3897336831437662766.post-46378583805550019252010-02-07T01:29:41.063-04:002010-02-07T01:29:41.063-04:00I have to admit I laughed at this:
"I didn&#...I have to admit I laughed at this:<br /><br />"I didn't weigh the pros and cons and decide "What the Hell? Let's go meet some girls." "<br /><br />Like Luna, I love your last line.<br /><br />And also, that it is what it is. What is the value of knowing what percent of the trait is nature and what percent is nurture, even if it were possible to know?Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3897336831437662766.post-63507829801564756832010-02-07T00:40:01.324-04:002010-02-07T00:40:01.324-04:00so interesting.
I love the last line!so interesting. <br /><br />I love the last line!lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.com