Saturday, January 27, 2018
When Life Gives You Lemons
Until now.
For the first time in my career I was let go due to downsizing and restructuring. Suddenly one Tuesday afternoon I found myself unemployed. I have been working since I was 14 (other than that unfortunate period in my early 20’s, but we don’t talk about the ‘90s anymore), so this is very unfamiliar territory.
Once I got over the initial shock, I was able to sit back and assess the situation. Taking stock things didn’t look so bad. I have great marketable skills. I’m very good at what I do. I have a wonderful family and we are all healthy and happy. We have a house, a car and some savings. We could manage this unexpected curve ball.
I took a week to let myself feel all the emotions and think all the thoughts. I looked at what jobs were currently available in the city. I started networking with friends, putting out feelers to everyone I could. And then I started exploring other ideas.
What if I changed careers?
At 47, with my family dependent on me, this was a pretty far-out there idea. But the idea started to grow. What else could I do? Did I want to keep doing what I’ve been doing for the next 20 some odd years? Could we even entertain the idea of starting over in something new?
Having a loving and supportive partner makes all the difference in the world. I would not have gotten through this past week without Hilary. She’s my rock, my sounding board, my shoulder to cry on, my support in all things. We talked through all the possibilities and ideas, coming back to some frequently, dismissing some immediately, shelving some for future consideration. We talked about every aspect that we could think off; financial risks, what the time away from family various ideas would mean, what our day to day life would look like, and any impact to Liam.
And together we have come up with a plan.
I am going back to school and embarking on a new career path.
The new career path is not so far off from what I’ve done in the past that I can’t take all of my skills and experience with me. 23 years of experience is not something you just toss away. But it is new and different. I will be doing things I’ve never done before, alongside things that are familiar to me.
The course I will be taking is 14 months long. I haven’t been in school since 1989. That was a very long time ago. It is a very scary prospect to walk into a classroom at this stage of my life, but it is the means to an end, and I will give it my all.
This was never something that I would have dreamt of doing on my own. But when life gives you lemons, make the best, sweetest lemonade that you can!
Sunday, December 31, 2017
The adoptee and her DNA
Genetic connections have always fascinated me, probably because I grew up without any. Seeing siblings that look alike, babies sporting great-aunt so and so's nose, and all the other observable traits in families have always been bittersweet for me. I was taller, tanned more, had genetically impossible eye colour and different hair from my parents. I did have one cousin who everyone said I looked like, especially if you compared baby pictures of us. That led to many adoption fueled fantasies about how we really were related but that there was a big family secret that no one wanted to tell us about. (Spoiler alert: there wasn't)
I finally got a picture of my birth mother Iris and my half sister when I was in my 30's. I poured over every pixel looking for a resemblance. I was very disappointed to not find much. Even Iris said that she didn't see any resemblance in us, but did offer up the nugget of information that she though I looked like I took after my father's side. Unfortunately that was about as much information as she was willing to tell my about my birth father.
With the easy availability of DNA testing kits today, it seemed like a great idea as an adoptee to possibly fill in some missing information. I knew the information would be quite generalized, a list of potential percentages from different areas of the world, but it was still more information than I had before. What I didn't anticipate was some of the emotions that doing this would unearth. When the kits first arrived in the mail it took me over a month just to be able to open it and read the instructions. From there it took another couple of weeks to work my way up to actually registering the kit online, spitting into the little tube and mailing it in for analysis. Once it was mailed off I was able to bury the thoughts of it in an "out of sight, out of mind" kind of way.
Until the email came telling me that it was ready.
I had chosen to do our tests through Ancestry.com Part of the decision was price, part was based on the other main stream test being geared more towards testing your DNA for potential medical issues and partly because Ancestry.com includes family tree software. I knew going into this that one of the possible outcomes of having your DNA tested was being connected to someone who you were genetically related to that had also been tested. The media has been full of stories of best friends finding out they are actually siblings and other adoption-reunion situations. Of course in the deepest recess of my mind I held out a smidge of hope that I might become one of those stories. I already knew that I have 5 half-siblings, and potentially any number of cousins, aunts or uncles.
I opened the email and started with my ethnicity estimates
Wednesday, December 13, 2017
Balance

My word for 2018 is BALANCE. I see BALANCE being important in many aspects of my life.
Balance work and home life
Balance training time with down time

I will find and create BALANCE in all aspects of my life for 2018.
Sunday, December 10, 2017
I am Strong
I want to be strong in my resolve. I want to be strong in my convictions. I want to be strong in my relationships. I want to be strong for my family and friends. I want to be mentally strong. And yes… I want to be physically strong too.Now that the year is coming to a close, I can say with confidence that I am STRONGER than I was when the year began.
My relationship with my Mom is STRONG. Mom and I spent a week long vacation just the two of us in the spring that culminated in our doing a half-marathon together. Crossing the finish line hand in hand was a great moment for both of us.
My relationship with Liam is STRONG. Having a great open relationship with him at 15 is so important to me. I'm glad that we can talk about anything, even if there are times that he isn't so pleased about the topic choices!
Hilary and I continue to have a STRONG relationship. We celebrated 24 years together yesterday. We have managed big moves, buying houses, having a kid, illnesses, career changes and pretty much everything else that life has to offer. All of it just makes us STRONGER together.
I am mentally STRONG. I try to challenge myself both at work and at home, to keep my mind active. Don't get me wrong, there is a good amount of time spent on mindless pursuits as well, but I think that recharging is just as important.
I am physically STRONGER too. I completed two half-marathons this year and many other races as part of my training. I joined a gym to work on strength training to help keep me injury free. I can lift heavier weights now than I could a year ago. One day soon I might even be able to do a push-up.
2017 was a great year overall. Thank you to all my friends and family who helped me be STRONG.
Wednesday, October 11, 2017
Friends
Tuesday, August 29, 2017
Flint the Donkey
Friday, December 30, 2016
STRONG
When I think of the word strong, my first thought always goes to “physically strong”. And I don’t think of myself as being physically strong. I need Hilary to open most jars, Liam to carry heavy things down the stairs and I couldn’t do a push up or a pull up to save my life.
But strong can mean so much more. I want to be strong in my resolve. I want to be strong in my convictions. I want to be strong in my relationships. I want to be strong for my family and friends. I want to be mentally strong. And yes… I want to be physically strong too.
In 2017 I am going to focus on being strong. I don’t know how that will look, or what the end result will be. But I do know that I will be a stronger person in the end.
Check out my previous words of the year:
2013 Do
2014 Believe
2015 Determined
2016 Healthy
Friday, December 16, 2016
I tried to be Healthy
- eat healthy
- improve my physical health
- have healthy relationships
- be emotionally healthy
- improve my overall mental health
Edited to add: after I finished writing this, but before I got it posted, I managed to hurt myself - again. I did a SPECTACULAR swan dive in the living room after tripping on a cat toy. I landed on my bad left side. Other than a lovely purple bruise on my hip and a very bruised ego, I am okay. A bit sore, but okay.
Tuesday, July 19, 2016
Rainbow of Colour
One of the downsides of having short hair is that the style is the style... there isn't much you can do with it. At best if I let it grow a bit long I can spike it up, but that only lasts for a week or so before I get it cut again.
The one thing I can do, and have been doing a lot, is change the colour. It started out with just dying the bangs different colours, but lately I've been doing the whole thing! People often worry that I am ruining my hair with all the chemicals, but then I remind them that I shave it off every 6-8 weeks anyway, so it's really always new, untreated hair that I'm dealing with.
The whole head colouring started on a whim to dye my hair blue for the BlueNose! Then I switched it up to purple to match the Sole Sisters race. Now that I don't have any races on the books until September, I'm just having fun, changing it up every couple of weeks. My favorite so far was a complete accident that ended up with a yellow and red "fire" look.
I've stuck mainly on the pink-purple-blue colour wheel. Yellow is pretty shocking, but very spring-like. Currently I'm playing around with green. I have a work trip planned in a couple of weeks, so I'll have to figure out what is the best work appropriate colour!
Sunday, July 3, 2016
Catio
Wednesday, June 22, 2016
Drouin Family Reunion
I don't know if there is a plan for another reunion, passing the planning and organizing on to the next generation, but if there is one, I'll be sure to go.
Friday, January 8, 2016
Happy New Year
Yes the new year started a week ago, but for our family we are starting it today. Today everyone is healthy - and what better way to start a new year off!
2015 was not a good year for us health wise.
Hilary was diagnosed with stage 2 cervical cancer in June. She underwent both chemo and radiation treatments from September to November. It was a long and rough road but a road that has led to recovery. Her oncologist declared that there was no longer any visible cancer so she is now being seen on a regular basis to make sure that it doesn't come back.
Liam managed to drop a canoe on his toe in July that caused a cut near the toenail. It became infected and overgrew the nail. He underwent surgery this week to clean it all up, remove part of the nail and to sew a flap of skin over it. While he is still bandaged and won't have the stitches out till next Friday, he is well on the road to recovery. At least he is no longer leaving bloody/pusy toe prints all over the house.
And me? For the past couple of years I have been having gallbladder attacks. I saw a surgeon in September who finally realized that the frequency and intensity of the attacks warranted surgery sooner rather then late.
So what does a family who has multiple medical issues do? Schedule 2 surgeries on the same day.
Hilary did an amazing job of keeping everything together. She and Liam got me registered at the adult hospital before they headed down the street to the kids hospital. His surgery was over first, so he got settled at home before Hilary headed back to pick me up.
The original plan had been for Hilary's Mum to fly in and help out for the week. But the best laid plans are always the ones that don't work out. Hours before leaving for the airport, Rosemary came down with the flu. She couldn't leave the bathroom, let alone fly across the country. Hilary and I have some amazing friends who came to our rescue, offering drives, sitting with Liam and taxiing Hilary to the pharmacy late at night.
So now we are all on the mend and ready to start 2016. Hopefully this year is free of all things medical for our family!
Wednesday, December 30, 2015
Healthy
I've been thinking of my 2016 word of the year choice for a couple of weeks now. I was pretty sure that it was going to be HEALTHY, so it's very ironic that as I type this I can barely stand up due to a sore back. I really need to be HEALTHY right now. I also really need my family to be healthy, though thankfully, Hilary is on her way there!
- eat healthy
- improve my physical health*
- have healthy relationships
- be emotionally healthy
- improve my overall mental health
*Caveat - this one starts on January 7th after my GallBladder surgery.
Wednesday, December 23, 2015
What did you say?
I’ve had my hearing tested a few times in the past, so I had a baseline when I went in a few weeks ago for another test. I was missing out on a lot more conversations lately, having to get people to repeat themselves more and just generally noticing the loss more.
Hearing loss is measured in decibels from 0-130. Normal hearing is considered anywhere in the 0-20 range and complete deafness starts around 90. It’s also measured across several different frequencies. You can have more of a loss with high pitch frequencies or low, deep frequencies.
My hearing test looks something like this:
I have a mild hearing loss in the higher frequencies. Compared to my last test from 2 years ago, I’ve lost about 10 decibels over all. My hearing also tested worse if there is any sort of back ground noise.
It was time to discuss solutions. I’m already using as many “tricks” as possible. I keep people on my right when we are walking and talking; I make sure that I can see a person’s face when we are in conversation; the phone is turned up as loud as it will go and we’ve used the close captioning on our TV for years. I’ve even used the closed captioning devices at the movie theater. After some discussion with the audiologist, I decided to try hearing aids. Since my hearing loss is fairly even in both ears, I would need 2 to keep things balance. Luckily they offer a 30 day, no money down, trial period.
I didn’t expect to find a lot of difference with the hearing aids in. After all, my hearing loss is minimal. But what a difference they have made! The first thing that Hilary noticed was that I wasn’t talking as loud as I usually do. When you can’t hear yourself, you naturally increase your volume. Conversations have been easier and clearer. I’m not missing key information from dialogue on TV. At work I was able to participate in a group conversation, where I would normally have just sat back, smiled, nodded occasionally and laughed when everyone else did because I couldn’t follow what was being said by everyone.
It’s been less than a week but I can already say that the trial is a success. I will see the audiologist again next week to check in on how it is going. And then I will have to make the big decision on whether or not I keep them. They are a significant financial investment, and while they are wonderful and do make a difference to how I hear, I’m not sure I’m ready to fork over that much cash right now.
Sunday, December 20, 2015
I was DETERMINED
- Laugh more
- Love more
- Eat healthier
- Run more
- Do well at TKD
- Enjoy life to its fullest
- Have a great year
I certainly RAN more. I trained for and ran my first half marathon in September. That took a lot of determination. Of course, I haven't really run much since then.....
I did not do as well at TKD as I had hoped, mainly because I stopped going in February. Training for a half marathon takes up a LOT of time, and I just didn't have an extra 3 hours a week to attend classes. Or so I told myself.
I didn't really eat healthier this year.... I sorta did in the first half of the year, but have fallen so far off the wagon that I can't even see it's tire tracks any more.
BUT
I've laughed and loved and enjoyed life. And to me, those are the 3 most important points.
2015 brought so many things with it. A great family vacation, wonderful visits from relatives, the kid growing into a teenage and of course, the dreaded cancer and the awfulness of it's treatment. But for all it's horrors, the treatments worked and we are no longer living with cancer amongst us. That alone is letting 2015 finish out as a great year.
I think that being DETERMINED has served me well for 2015.
Friday, December 18, 2015
Much Ado About Nothing
Wednesday, November 25, 2015
Fifteen Dollars and Thirteen Cents
Wednesday, November 18, 2015
Happy Birthday Grandma
In October of 1941 she married my Grandpa, Abraham Joseph Roussy. They had 4 children, 3 grandchildren and 3 great-grandchildren.
Today she is celebrating her 93rd birthday.
Wednesday, August 19, 2015
Liam and birthdays
Thursday, June 4, 2015
Goodbye Elementary
And with that, Liam has finished elementary school. The adventures of Middle School will start in September.










