My Facebook feed has lately been clogged with pictures of adoptees (or birthparents, or siblings) holding up posters with their information, trying to find their first families. Social media is a huge part of our lives today, and a picture shared with a few friends can suddenly go viral. The number of people who have been reunited through this method is growing. There is a whole Facebook page dedicated to helping people share their pictures.
Every time I see one of these pictures go by, I think "Should I?" Should I print up what information I know about my paternal half-siblings and put it out there for the fates to handle? I have enough bits and pieces that someone might make the connection. I have met my birthmother and I look nothing like her or her other daughter. I suspect that I do look like my paternal half-siblings, based on the bits and pieces I have. Would someone see the picture and make the connection?
The pros and cons are overwhelming. Do I want to find them? What if I don't find them? If I found them, how would it affect Iris? Should that concern stop me? What will I find? Do they know about me and don't want to be found? and on and on it goes.
So I sit and wonder, Should I?