Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Liam's big brother

No, we haven't adopted another kid without warning.  And no, Liam is not yet in contact with "C" his older brother.

Liam has a Big Brother, "D" through the Big Brothers/Big Sisters Assoc.

We originally applied to the program almost 2 years ago.  There is such a need for volunteers, and so few volunteers that it can take a long time to get matched.  We did have one potential match last fall but it fell through.   So we were very excited to get the call a few weeks ago letting us know that he had been matched again.

The initial meeting involved Hilary and I, the case worker from BBBS, "D" and of course Liam.  We all hit it off really well.  They did a great job in matching them up - sports, Star Wars, guitar and high energy - all things that we had hoped for in a Big Brother.  We left the meet'n'greet with a plan for them to get together a few days later.  They've only had that one get together so far, and it was the day after Liam spent 6 hours in the ER with a migraine, so it's a bit too early to tell how it's going.  But "D" is going to come to Liam's school concert with us on Thursday.  I think they are going to be great friends.

It's hard to admit that as a parent you can't give/do everything for your child.  As Lesbian's we went into parenthood with our eyes open, knowing that we would not be able to give our child the male-time that they might get with straight parents.  Our families live far away, and our male friends have families and kids of their own.  But we also knew that we were willing to do whatever we needed to make sure our child's needs were met.  Just like getting Liam glasses or extra reading help, getting him a Big Brother is another option to help him have a well balanced life.  I hope they form a great and long-lasting bond.

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